Do you have express regret a "old school parent left over it as they did something?

I know, that early, many people struggle with old school parents and grandparents, who ask them, to disaccustom, or solid gives early or at all. But I wondered, whether each other hätte, a "old Schuleltern0 0-regrets or jealousy over, as matters now are handled, opinion, essentially this general practice contravened her/its/their own instincts at the moment.

, Background: my sister and I are twins, who were born 1973 over Notfall-c-Teil, and gave many complications it. This became an unmögliche nursing situation at the moment views, and would be challenging completely smooths today, therefore we were from birth of fed bottle,

My mother asked me, how I disaccustomed my son of the bottle, and I explained my slow, sympathetic base. She/it said, thereß she/it the bottles of us suddenly year in the age of one had brought, like the recommendation was, but in the retrospective view, she/it regretted that (especially) and wishes for her, in the case of my sister, (that was fortified more) that made it and thoughts slower sie\'d that would have been no big deal some further months of some bottles.

IchIch found it only interestingly, she/it didn\'t follow her/its/their instincts at the moment, but 35 or with it years later, she/it recognizes that she/it was wrong.

Each other has over the child\'s general practice - at the time a parent or a Großelternteileilbedauern had, or, otherwise, you admit that they didn\'t follow her/its/their medical advice and actually wounded on doing somewhat more in accordance with current thinking,

The single other is, of which I can think, that constantly my father * * is jealous of the different baby messengers and the backpacks, who now are available, because the single possibility was two enormous strollers for the two from us as newborns, and late, the world of biggest, unportable, double strollers.

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It is my mommy honestly, who asked me, to trust my intestine more, and not all, which the doctors tell me about my children, to listen, necessarily. That is some of the best advice, I am per been given... not only over child, who revolts, but ever. But my mom isn\'t according to this "old-educate." 100 percent 1 voices saves to it! ! RSS

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from Grimbo? Yes one of my managers. You/they muß 50 into her/its/their late sein\'s. we were on a workshop/seminar, it went be games about infant psychology and like important with your baby as it helps them to develop itself and so on,
SieSie told me at the end of the seminar, that she/it regrets not to play with her/its/their children, as they were younger, as it was not seen as necessary, and housework had as a matter of priority over playing.

from CelticCh.... not really, but this question is interesting, because only I told my 10 year old daughter yesterday evening, that matters determined the doctor I regrets, instructed me 11 to do, as my firstborn was only a baby,... I said her/it/them, I should think mother instincts had listened, and I told her/it/them that if she/it has children, although about what they talk knows docs in general, she/it should listen to herself. :)

Unfortunately, the older people, whom I know, mommy and mommy in-laaw, included, you have the attitude from it: "Oh, it was fine, as we did this with THEM, and you went out okay!" With it, they believe much that present-day respects are over the top.

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through momoftwi.... my G\'ma had twins, who were in the 50\'ern back. she/it never said, thereß she/it today jealous of everything is, she/it is surprised more of those how doctors advice against this and him/it.

In my g\'mas-Tag, they didn\'t need any carseats. as she/it the hospital verließen, she/it would favor the babies her/its/their two oldest children in the frontal seat laps or her/its/their own lap. it didn\'t give any rules to something on it and does, when a baby too ernit is heads, you this something you feeling is the best.

she/it said the prestige of me with mounting about the carseats and baby accessorieses, she/it says look very much exhausting. In her/its/their day, matters were much simpler.

through rainwrit.... my mom parented I into a very similar manner, that I now am parenting, although she/it mixed also her/its/their democratic parenting with any permissiveness and authoritarian methods. You/they and I bekämpften it from some times, and I sincerely remember because I am strangled twice on the sofa, and stepped while I ducked in the corner. She/it never had thereover me everything said, and I understood that, es\'s, in order to talk heavily about matters, is you ashamed, that you did. She/it was this a time, that I his/its Faß, with my toddler, beat I absolutely hates, that I made that)and, her/its/their reaction talked for that parenting-Entscheidungen so loudly, that she/it had done, about her/its/their regret with me.

My mother and my father in law brought a more authoritarian base to parenting and pulled up her/its/their children with it in one you do what I say, because I say, it and I are a boss, and we know better with it thinking questions us" not even. After all her/its/their children, it was grown and moved out, everything however one married, she/it, that was found from this of her/its/their boys, had his/its two small sisters belästigt. Es\'s something, which nobody ungefähr talks and worked not on solving, but I know that my honored mother-in-law felt know so badly that her/it/them controlling approach to it to pull up her/its/their children, really to it contributed.

from JustMe YES!!!!!!!

As mean twins less as one week old was, that my husband and I took her/it/them in order to see his/its aunt that I very loves. We had gotten all types from advice to people to reduce her/it/them if she/it aren\'t, the gefit becomes üttert so that they don\'t expect to become held. About her/it/them NEVER in our room let alone, to let sleep our bed. , In order to let cried her/it/them. About them frheld" and so on "longer to feed üh grains in her/its/their bottles, so that will be she/it, I knew, that my own instincts placed themselves into the way however many people, asked me to do this. My proper mom wasn\'t, that me aufträgt, to do this,... she/it was a breastfeeder/cosleeper, but anyway -

The aunt of my husband said us:

"You/they love those babies. Don\'t, that you ask you to do somebody, not to let those babies sleep with you, ließen, and has asked you to do nobody not to hold those babies. Those are your babies and believe me, if I tell you, thereß she/it FAST grows up. I verpaßte this with my children, and I place auf\'t wants, that you do the same mistakes, that I did."

I thought, this was very profound, and I have myself very severely solicitous to heed her/its/their advice.

I to often believe that people try to confirm her/its/their own elections through the narrative of others, that to do resembling. Yes, if ANY announce her/its/their baby l for it with 2 weeks oldäßt, and if EVERYONE of day has one her/its/their baby on a 4 hour schedule, and if EVERYONE then makes it, that is won, xyz, t is bad, that you did it. lol

Sexxxy, that my MIL informed me of it, is through Greens parties that she/it for nursing was proud of me, for doing of it as it yearns you for itself, as anxiously not i and this being over it to nurse in public, has.

this is the same woman, who asked me to work as a nurse, my then 2month old ones in a dirty restaurant bathroom. a long way comes wir\'ve in 3yrs! they it now one of my Hauptanhänger the care!

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still even loved i through our tough times my MIL and my look to her for management. her/its/their näher as my own mother.

through love insists! One& C-Mama, that my mommy (who is first son), 1980 were born, was told from a doctor, that babies could be spoiled and each FOUR-Stunden are nourished only once! She/it believed this, despite the fact, thereß her/its/their sons, my brothers, who would cry whole time. She/it followed, you don\'t spoil this the baby belief in her/its/their first 7 children, she/it had nine altogether before she/it recognized, thereß babies must be nourished upon request. In an aspect her/it/them was instructed by a doctor, itself only every four hours too ernheads..., but she/it always said that the babies cried the whole time, and "now there I over it thinks, they were, probably hungry and breast milk is not to be filled itself/themselves as it as formula". no duh!

from AMOFO?ST.... my mommy informed me of her/it/them once, that is wished, that she/it had known nursing, was important. If she/it had, she/it hätte it tries.

You/they also very much regret, this ever my brother trimmed. It was her/its/their memory of the pain, that brought me to it, to explore it, and No. says